I’m not offended when a friend expresses his/her attraction for me, in fact I’m usually flattered so long as they’re aware that I’m not obligated to reciprocate and that yes, the dynamic may become slightly altered after the admission but I always try to remain friends and I try not to let that cloud my view of them as a person, we can’t turn shit like that on and off, right?

When it becomes aggressive and threatens my other interpersonal relationships or my very person in and of myself: I tend to step back and reexamine the potential toxicity of the situation.

In this case, I’ve made the call to break contact before it has the chance to develop into something beyond simply toxic and into something potentially outright dangerous.

I can’t risk that for myself or for my other loved ones and inner circle.

I have a sexual attraction to many female friends. That, I don’t think I can change or control. Some friends realize that, talk about it in the open (especially if the feeling is mutual), and we make our peace without consumating the relationship. The others are either not aware, or don’t care, but they carry on the friendship in good faith that I don’t demand their, um, “sweet juicy fuck.” And I won’t.

Friends who are in marriages or other long-term significant relationships are vulnerable to all sorts of things. I’ve lived long enough to know the real value of such relationships as my friends and I age. I’ve also lived long enough to see the pain and utter devastation caused by separation, more so when that separation is because of a third, competing paramour.

Were I to chase someone, the real danger isn’t really in her rejection, but in her acceptance. If I really loved a woman, the last thing I would want to do is to put her through the pain, alienation and emotional want just to get my jollies, or because I’m lonely, or even if I wanted to start another long-term relationship with this person. The attempt to even do such would be an act of betrayal.

I’m wondering if that might have had something to do with the fact that you’re “…so fucking mad and heartsick over this shit that [you] just can’t even..”

This guy betrayed you. He betrayed your friendship, your trust, and your love. I don’t know his situation, but he might have permenantly thrown away all three.

The people we most care about sometimes have a tendency to do that. If they’re worth it, we let them back in if they got some kind of emotional collateral. This guy, though, sounds dangerous as you’ve described him. I wouldn’t attempt reconcilliation with him in the near future.

On a side note, I hope you have a wonderful Mother’s Day tomorrow *hugs*

I showed Kylearyn all of the texts because he needs to be aware of this shit and unlike the aforementioned dude, I am honest with my mate.

If I had the money, I’d buy a Mac. But that’s beside the point.

Good to see further instragrations.