Tragic's Wake

I despise the term “normal sized woman” the term implies that only larger “curvy” women are really the norm and naturally thin women are somehow aberrant. Can’t we just be “normal” in the skin we’re in? Just stop all the hypocrisy, if you’re fat or thin: you are “normal” for you.

I’m so tired of reading articles about thin models, some of whom really are naturally thin and not starving to death in the glorified name of Vogue Magazine. The comments on said articles are generally filled with a sickening blend of hypocrisy and hate because the reader sees these thin women as some sort of insult or personal affront, an attack on their fragile self esteem perhaps. 

Not all women are big and curvy, not all women are stick thin. I’ve noticed that many women who complain about “those skinny little bitches” are convinced that thin isn’t possible unless you’re either starving yourself to death, addicted to drugs or dying from some horrible disease.

These same women generally have a complete tantrum if they believe someone has slighted or insulted their own weight, they become enraged at the thought that someone disapproves and they cry foul whenever a label is applied based on weight however I wonder: if they stopped for just a moment and listened to themselves, I mean really listened, would they not see the hypocrisy in their own words?

Ladies, do me a favour:

Stop picking yourselves and each other apart and grow the hell up. Look around you, not every woman is or can be a size six, or a size twenty six. We come in all shapes, colours, sizes and flavours. It would do you well to remember that and also to remember your own pain when someone criticizes your own appearance before you take the time to attack someone else.

*Personal Disclaimer:

Even before my disease was active, I was extremely thin by nature. My entire family is thin, by nature. Nobody starved themselves, took drugs or used dangerous diets, we’re just thin. I admit that a large part of my disgust for the never ending weight saga roots back to my youth when I was bullied by much larger girls simply for being “too thin” and the things they said/did to me were horrible.

Before you say I’m being “weight-ist” reread everything I have said in this post, and know that all of the women that I idolize are much bigger than me, also know that I have never dated or become romantically or intimately involved with a woman who wasn’t considered overweight by media and cultural standards and yes, in some cases, even by medical standards ((please take note while realizing this little factoid that I didn’t even think of it or connect the dots until forced to do so for reasons of backing this post. Walk the walk or sit the fuck down right?))

The reality is–it isn’t your ass that I fell in love with so sit on it and just think before you slam someone else just because they’re not your brand of “normal.”

Thanks.

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